Bronnie Ware was a carer for the dying. After many years of sitting beside the beds of men and women who were preparing themselves to move on and leave behind this world they knew, a common thread started to emerge in the conversation she was having with these people.
After the request from many, Bronnie decided to write a book to share this amazing insight from these people with the world and to give those who still have many years ahead of them, the opportunity to live their lives to the fullest.
The book is called The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying and although I have listed the 5 here below, the book goes into great depth and understanding of each of these regrets and how it effected these individuals lives. It also teaches you how to change your life and make it better!
1. I wish I had courage to live a life TRUE TO MYSELF, NOT the life OTHERS expected of me.
This was the most common regret. Many times we tend to make decisions based on what others think, feel and expect from us, instead of choosing what feels right for us in our heart and soul
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard….
This is a tough one to swallow and is very significant in our modern world. So much time is spent chasing the money, fame & material at the expense of loosing valued time, health & happiness. Many people tend to say “when I reach this amount, I will slow down” only to never ever reach that amount because it is a cycle of non stop desire and greed.
Having ambition is AWESOME and necessary (include a good income) but there is a fine line that most people don’t know how to keep in order to live well without loosing the things that really matter (time, health and happiness)
3. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings…..
Many people suppress their feelings in order to keep peace with others (….or to keep a job, or to stay in a relationship, or to prevent abuse etc etc). In a society where so many feel they have the right to throw their distasteful (and often disrespectful) opinions on social media…..BUT when it actually comes down to speaking the truth face to face, VERY few can do it.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends….
Many become so caught up in their lives that they had let golden friendships slip away. They didn’t realize how much they would miss their friends until their last few days.
I have found that this last year, months have gone by without me making the effort to reach out to some of my special friends…..mainly because the fear of my anxiety and what they would "think" or feel if they had to see me at my most vulnerable. I have to remind myself that true friends would not judge or be effected by this challenging fear and would actually be completely understanding and compassionate towards my struggle.
The friends that truly love and care for you, will be there for you through thick and thin, no matter the time or distance between you xxx
5. I wish I had let myself be happier.
This is a HUGE one for me personally. I am a sensitive person and the struggles of others effect me deeply. I have often felt I didn’t “deserve” to be happy when there was so much pain and suffering in the world. But over time ( of which I must still constantly remind myself) I have learnt that happiness is a choice and it can be spread and encouraged to others by living a life that is full of joy and happiness. YOU ARE ALLOWED TO BE HAPPY, IT IS YOUR RIGHT AND YOUR CHOICE!
I’ll end off with these amazing words by Bronnie herself…..Each sentence resonates deep in my core and I will read these daily to remind myself of what really matters in this world …. I hope you will do the same.
The only formula that works long-term is to follow your own heart.
Courage is always rewarded.
There is awe to be found in presence, regardless of apparent circumstances.
Facing our own inevitable death is a fabulous tool for joy-filled living.
Self-love is essential to truly serve others well.
Our lessons are given to us from a place of love, to bring us into our best self.
Compassion is the best response to assumptions or criticism.
Our magnificent planet is our greatest teacher.
Faith manifests dreams much more powerfully than logic.
The greatest appreciation we can show for our life is to enjoy it fully.
Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it…..
To find out more about Bronnie Ware and the amazing books she has written,visit her website www.bronnieware.com
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